Unspeakable Inequalities: Everyday Sexism at the Workplace
December 13, 2013 Leave a comment
by Anand Philip
We know that sexual harassment is rampant in the Indian workplace. While we are constantly made aware of these forms of gender violence, it’s rarely that we hear anything about the commonest kind- the everyday sexism of the workplace.
Here’s a list of various contexts and types of sexism faced by women in the workplace in India, curated from emails to me and tweets when i curated @genderlog a few weeks back.
This is in no way comprehensive, and the headings are just patterns I’ve noticed.
Entitlement
Shamita writes
In a couple of organizations I’ve worked with, I have observed that there are casual remarks made by male co-workers in my direction and sometimes in the direction of other female colleagues about how there are “no hot, young chicks in this company.” Like the reason we exist in the organization is just so we can be eye-candy for the men we work with.
In a recent conference about masculinities in South Asia organized by Prajnya, I saw films specifically shot to throw light on masculinity. One thing that stood out, from all of them was how South Asian male seems to have a sense of entitlement when it comes to women’s bodies and lives. There’s a belief that it’s the man who owns the woman, and that the woman needs a lifelong parent to make decisions for her. This is used to explain away things from who cooks, to physical violence.
Shamita continues
“Comments are made also in the direction of married women (like 30 years and above) about how they’re so old and like that is such a bad thing.”
This free for all scrutiny, as if it’s men’s birthright to make such comments about women’s bodies, and lives, and as if women owe it to men to be more attractive while at the work place. I wonder if such conversations exist about men, not that it would make this right.
Only men allowed
From my experience in medical colleges, there’s a clear bias against women doing what are considered the “manly” specializations. The entire orthopedic department of my college had two women doctors. Both of them were constantly talked about as being one of the boys. This was also observed and confirmed by others
Rohini, an IT professional writes
@genderlogindia some jobs are off limits for women, they need to prove they are "one of the guys", wage gap, generous use of sexist lingo.
— Rohini Lakshané (@aldebaran14) November 28, 2013
@genderlogindia A friend who works in IT quit her job after being told to work "24×7" like the 'bachelor' teammates.
— Rohini Lakshané (@aldebaran14) November 28, 2013
@aldebaran14 @genderlogindia The female employment experience is full of 'trying to prove yourself'.
— VishnupriyaBhandaram (@singinsaturday) November 28, 2013
@genderlogindia – Liquor industry – institutional sales (pubs, bars, restaurants) given by women, no chance at retail sales
— Akshara (@akshara80) November 28, 2013
@genderlogindia – MBA placements HR – women not expected to do industrial HR. Fin – women expected to do analysis &research in invtg banking
— Akshara (@akshara80) November 28, 2013
@genderlogindia When I took admission for mechanical engineering many people told me that it ismt for girls
— Nikita Chandawale (@anunheardvoice) November 28, 2013
Some of this is paternalistic – Hard work is for the men, or don’t put women in ‘dangerous’ industries. Hidden in the language of being practical and caring, of course.
@genderlogindia – Liquor industry – institutional sales (pubs, bars, restaurants) given by women, no chance at retail sales
— Akshara (@akshara80) November 28, 2013
Some of it comes from workplaces never having been designed for women- by default everything’s designed for men, and with the entry of women into the previously men-only workforces, everybody’s got to confirm to that ideal male behaviour.
@aldebaran14 @genderlogindia "Whatever women do they must do twice as well as men to be thought half as good" (Whitton) It holds true today
— VishnupriyaBhandaram (@singinsaturday) November 28, 2013
Stereotypes
@genderlogindia I won't say engineered but definitely ingrained. Boys get gadgets, girls kitchen sets.
— Rohini Lakshané (@aldebaran14) November 28, 2013
@aldebaran14 @genderlogindia now its a bit more detailed. Just married?(Read will get preggs) fresher?(R wil move after marriage) and so on.
— Asawari Salwan (@Seek_and_Learn) November 28, 2013
@singinsaturday @genderlogindia @aldebaran14 My colleagues had bets on whether I would come back to work after my first baby!
— Rashmi Kalghatgi (@RashmiRNaik) November 29, 2013
@genderlogindia @aparna_jain yes it is. You expect the women to not take care of themselves. Also sometimes women expect this treatment…
— Aakashvani (@aaliznat) November 29, 2013
@genderlogindia @aparna_jain …because we are conditioned internally to accept help with things ‘we can’t do’ like late nights etc.
— Aakashvani (@aaliznat) November 29, 2013
@genderlogindia 'Design? Fashion design is it?' I studied Film + Graphic design in an art and design school.
— aarthi parthasarathy (@aarthipartha) November 28, 2013
Self explanatory tweets, I think. From blue’s for boys and pink’s for girls, to Gynecology is for girls and surgery is for boys, there are large and small stereotypes that are used to discourage, and make boundaries for women at the workplace.
Moral Policing
It goes by many names. Protecting women, protecting culture, safety, real-life considerations etc. but it’s all aimed at others owning the choices that women should be making for themselves.
@genderlogindia At an interview for the post of lecturer: Do you have a boyfriend? Don't you wear Indian clothes?
And my subject is Eng Lit.
— Stripe Purple (@StripePurple) November 28, 2013
@genderlogindia Actually my interviewer was a lady. When I asked why this was relevant, she replied-" Moral Fibre." & this was only the gist
— Stripe Purple (@StripePurple) November 29, 2013
@StripePurple Is "Moral fibre" a new kind of breakfast cereal that 'good girls' eat? 'Your daily dose of Iron and sanskar' @genderlogindia
— Shruti Swamy (@ultrabr0wn) November 29, 2013
@genderlogindia "You want to become a criminal lawyer? But I've heard its not so good for girls."
Can you just please mind your business?!
— Radhika Saxena (@SaxenaRadhika) November 28, 2013
Mansplaining
A particularly common form of sexism in which women, assumed less smarter, are spoken to like Sumi describes;
I routinely have men I interact with regarding academics state the blindingly obvious, beginning their diatribes with “Please try to understand…” or some such, and occasionally suggest that I refer to my own writing for further information. Of course, the reference material is never acknowledged to be mine, and, if it’s my blog, I’m generally given its URL. I assume that this is some form of mansplaining, although I’m not certain. I don’t always clarify, and the few times I have done so, I’ve not received an apology.
No one will marry you!
The worth of a woman, and her most important role is assumed to be that of a home maker, of mother and wife. She is expected to do as the society asks her to, because otherwise, she wont be able to fulfill her role, her greatest desire and achievement.
@genderlogindia @nsaikia just last wk, when covering a conference, was asked by scion of industry, unprompted, what my husband did.
— kavitharao (@kavitharao) November 29, 2013
Suchi writes
House hunting: I was asked by almost every house owner for details of my marital status….Almost every house owner expressed doubts about my ability to pay rent without a husband in tow. Presumably because women are not expected to be financially
Job hunting: I was asked far more often about my plans relating to marriage, pregnancy and how I planned to handle child care than I was about academics, experience or competence; I’m reasonably certain that the same would not have happened to a man.
If there are a number of young-ish people in a store, and I show up wearing a saree on my way back from work, I usually wind up jumping the queue (against my will), with the shopkeeper explaining to everyone in earshot that I need to go home and cook. I’ve never made this claim to anyone. Also, this only happens when I’m in a saree.
@ultrabr0wn girls have always been fed said fibres in order to turn them into respectable women failing which @genderlogindia @StripePurple
— Poonam Singh (@poothewinner) November 29, 2013
@ultrabr0wn + nobody will marry them, no ? @genderlogindia @StripePurple
— Poonam Singh (@poothewinner) November 29, 2013
@genderlogindia a practising lawyer? So you're going to Court to look for a husband?
— Ipsita Banerjee (@ipsyb) November 29, 2013
A more detailed account of many of these can be found at the storify – http://storify.com/genderlogindia/everyday-sexism-at-workplace-india-edition
and as an offshoot of this tweet https://twitter.com/genderlogindia/statuses/406111048844853248
In summary, everyday sexism is a product of beliefs and systems that are so pervasive, we usually overlook them or explain them away as normal. But they are neither normal, nor to be taken lightly. The beliefs that lead to rape take root in the beliefs that lead us to mansplain, police and sterotype. It’s a spectrum, from “soft” sexism to physical violence, and it needs to be challenged right at the start.
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Dr. Anand Philip’s Twitter bio describes him as “Your friendly neighbourhood GP.”